Recently I was watching one of my favorite TV shows when a woman on the program made the comment, "That way I can better control the perception people have of me."
I have to say that I was pretty blown away by this comment, and I imagine that this individual is going to have an alarming wake-up call someday.
To imagine that we have any control over how people perceive us, what they think about us or what they believe about us is a fantasy. We may well go to our graves being misunderstood, misrepresented, lied to, lied about and generally disrespected. On the other hand, we may go to our graves with the world believing grand but untrue things about us and our intentions. We just can't know, and we can't do a thing about it.
It is for this reason that we must know who we are free of the limitations of even our own judgments. We can only be responsible for ourselves, but we must be responsible for ourselves if we are to step into this world in power and with effectiveness. With grace, we may find kinship and true recognition. But regardless of how the world perceives us, it cannot truly limit us if we remain aware of our own gifts and shortcomings, and if we use this awareness with integrity. Our personal "power," as it were, is neither given nor taken by another. It is ours to know and claim. It is ours to use in our search for the joys of essence rich living.
Know your authentic self. Learn your personal gifts and talents for this lifetime, and share that wealth with the world around you. And should all around you fail to see who you are, it matters not, for it does not touch the truth of you.